Every child is different and is born with a unique personality. It’s the surroundings that play a major role in shaping the child’s personality. It’s the responsibility of parents, elders, teachers, siblings, and other people around your child to influence them to develop personality traits.
Not all children grow to be confident and strong individuals. Some become one by watching such people around them. Raising children as strong and confident individuals can be quite a task and requires hard work from the parent’s side. As parents, you need to ensure that your child gets a positive environment both at home as well as at school— so that they can learn and understand the world around them.
All mental and physical development happens in the early stages of childhood and that’s why it’s important to start working on your child’s personality development.
So what exactly is personality development?
There are several characters to a child’s including the confidence, courage, and respect they give and get from others. A child’s personality undergoes several changes from the time they start understanding the world around them and this includes meeting different kinds of people. Most of the time, children learn a lot from their parents, including their behavior.
How to help your child with personality development
Personality development doesn’t come by lecturing children about what’s good or bad or about do’s and don ts. Children don’t learn personality development by hearing or listening, they learn it by watching others do it—in this case, it’s parents/adults. So, the best way to raise them with better personalities is to do it in front of them: one small step at a time, every single day.
- Don’t brand your child
Most of us identify a child with he/she does, but in this case, if a child is naughty, don’t brand him/her as one, because their mind is such that they will start to believe that they are naughty. It also hurts their psychology. Be cautious about the words you are using.
- Listen carefully
Listen carefully to everything your child is saying and don’t cut him/her short, as it’s not good for their growing minds. Children love attention and as they grow older and learn the language, they will try to explain and express themselves in much better ways. As parents, you must remember in mind that when you listen carefully, they will become good listers when they grow up.
- Be good if they fall short
Children are learning and growing and will make mistakes at every step of the way. You shouldn’t expect your child to know everything. When adults can’t be perfect, how can you expect children to be perfect? When children don’t match up to parent’s expectations, parents express displeasure and this is enough to make the children unhappy. If your child, is not capable enough, then give them chances and time to grow and do something in a better way. Provide them help and give them any assistance that you
- Don’t compare
Don’t compare your child with anyone— not even with his/her sibling. Comparing your child with other kids his/her age will do more harm than good to their psyche and personality. When you compare your child to someone else, it confuses them and they start feeling that they are not good enough. Give them the freedom to explore and come up with new designs and thinking.
- Don’t speak anything against them
Children falter and that’s part of the growing process. If they make mistakes, allow them to make mistakes, however, tell them about the mistake and how it would have harmed their own academics of personal loves.
- Speak right, behave right
Children learn from their parents and so in order to ensure that your child speaks and behaves right, you need to speak and behave right at home and that will leave a lasting impression in their lives. Be polite with them and speak nothing against them—both in front and behind them.
- Allow them to play
Some of life’s main lessons like sharing, caring, empathy, team spirit, resilience, and leadership can only be learned through sports, so allow them to play as much as they can. Sports also teach them to be innovative and resourceful, which is making use of whatever is available. Today’s generation has lost its touch with sports due to several reasons. Sports are the best activities for children to develop personality development. Enroll them to as many sports as possible—time permitting so that they can effectively balance education and sports training. Additionally, you can also enroll them to learn music. Music has the power to calm and by learning music, they will get several skills that will improve their personality.
- Reduce screen time
Handheld devices, TV, and mobiles are the biggest reasons why children have difficulty in developing their personalities. According to several studies, spending too much time in front of screens impacts children’s intellectual and social development. When children are in front of devices, they have little time for social interactions. To keep them away from mobiles, TV, and computers, take them to parks or for other recreations.
- Make rules
Make clear rules about your children’s responsibilities so that they are aware of what is expected out of them. It so happens that due to a lack of rules, children take things for granted and this may lead to bigger issues going forward. Make clear yet achievable goals. Tell them the consequences of not following the rules.
Handholding a child up to some extent is okay but taking care of all of their activities can harm their personality development. Give your children the freedom to choose what they want to do at a particular hour or day, how they arrange books in their school bags, or how they want to study or do their homework or any other activity. You have to be caring toward your child but it’s also important to teach them how to manage their responsibilities.
Personality Development Myths Parents Should Know
Personality isn’t all about looking good or wearing good clothes. It’s certainly also not about eating the right food or staying healthy. While these are important, they should be in the second or third order or priority. Personality development should be first. Teaching your child personal development will change their outlook toward knowledge, social skills, life, interpersonal skills, and others.
At Orchids The International School, teaching our students personality development is one of our major activities as we believe that this is important for the comprehensive development of the children.