Handling Tantrums and Meltdowns

Hello, cool kids! Today we are going to talk about something we all, at some point in time or other, face: tantrums! Do you have a little brother or sister who throws a tantrum? Do you think you might know what it would be like to have those huge emotions? Knowing what a tantrum is might well be useful for controlling it. Let's find out more!

Managing Child Meltdowns & Tantrums Tips From A Board Certified Behavior Analyst

What Is a Tantrum?

First things first, What in the world is a tantrum? A tantrum is just that exact point in time when the person, typically a child, lets out frustration or another emotion strongly and dramatically. Cry, scream, stamp your feet, and even break things at least from time to time. People get into a tantrum when they become overwhelmed, tired, or simply do not get something they want. It's a huge emotional explosion!

Tantrums vs. Meltdowns

But a tantrum and a meltdown often sound like the same thing. But they're a little different. A tantrum is often when a child is mad or upset about something, specifically, it's about a specific toy. A meltdown is when things in general become too overwhelming: too much noise, too much going on altogether, or just too many feelings for a child to cope with. Knowing the difference will help you prepare to respond appropriately!

Why Do Tantrums Happen?

Now you know why tantrums occur and that will serve as a better way to understand those tantrums, and you will know how to handle those tantrums easily. As often frequent reasons will be there to cause tantrums;

Frustration: Things just do not go the way we want them to sometimes. And all of these feelings can be huge, like if you are trying to build a tower with blocks and then keep falling.

Tiredness: Emotion takes over when one is too tired. When the school day goes long and you never get a good sleep, it puts you in a mode of going berserk.

Hungry: Do you know what "hungry" is? It's when hunger causes you to get cranky. The more time you don't eat, the more likely you are to be crazy.

Attentionseeking behavior: A child throws tantrums as a way to get attention from a person, but mainly a parent or caregiver. The child believes that if they throw tantrums or make a scene, people will pay attention to them.

Too much: There's too much noise, too many people, too many things and it is overwhelming. Then a child will use a meltdown or tantrum as a means of dealing with the overwhelm

Managing Tantrums

So how do we learn how to control the offensive tantrum? Follow these strategies that could help you both and other persons around you when your feelings begin to trigger.

1. Breath Deeply

If people are giving you the stinkeye, try taking a couple of deep breaths. You take a breath in through your nose and let the air out through your mouth. That can even calm down the body and brain. Count up to three while breathing in and out, kind of like giving your brain a little hug!

2. Use Your Words

Instead of melting down, speak about what is happening to you. For instance, if you want that toy so terribly but cannot get it, you can say, "I am extremely upset because I cannot have that toy." This will allow your grouses to spew out to others and also help in boosting one's mood.

3. Cooling Down Space

It would be advisable if you step away for a while and turn off the overwhelming feeling. Sit in some quiet area; calm your mind. You can select a warm corner of your bedroom or even a pleasant place outside. You might even need to take the time to walk away and be ready to face what's frustrating you.

4. Use a Stress Ball or Fidget Toy

Sometimes you just have to squish something or play with your hands to let some of that energy out. A stress ball, a fidget spinner, or a soft toy might be just what the doctor prescribed for those big emotions bubbling over.

5. Talk to Someone

If you get frustrated and don't know how to act, discuss it with someone you can trust, like an adult or even a friend. They can also be able to help you work it through and understand you. Okay, it's perfectly all right to ask for help!

6. Develop a Tantrum Plan

Then, if you expect a tantrum, prepare a prevention plan. Take down what calms you: music, drawing, walking, or anything else that calms you down. Post this list somewhere conspicuous.

Being Aware of Your Emotions

The best way to respond to tantrums is by learning about your feelings. Here are some methods that will aid you in this regard:

1. Identify Your Feelings

Pay attention to how you feel in so many situations. Are you sad, angry, and frustrated? They say the more you identify why you feel a certain way, the better control you are likely to have over it.

2. Use an Emotion Chart

Sometimes it is helpful to have a picture. You can make an emotion chart with faces that depict the feelings. Whenever you feel like you are getting to the boiling point, glance at the chart and determine what's spilling out. Sometimes it helps clarify exactly what emotion is spilling out.

3. Mindfulness Practice

Mindfulness is the state of awareness of what you are thinking and feeling free from judgment. All you have to do is once your free time is there sit alone for a few minutes and watch your breathing or hear and see the moving things and people around you. This may help you in gaining better control over your emotions.

Control Other People's Tantrums

Assumption: Suppose you realize that a friend or sibling starts having a meltdown. Here are the ways you can intervene.

1. Calm Down

Well, it's tempting to get frustrated and irritated when someone throws a tantrum. So try to stay calm and speak softly. This will help them feel comfortable and supported.

2. Provide a Hug

Sometimes, a soft embrace becomes comforting. If he or she is okay with it, then hugging makes him or her feel loved and cared for.

3. Listen

If he or she is okay talking about it, listen to him or her. And sometimes, to make them somewhat feel better, it takes someone willing to listen to them.

4. Encourage Breaks

If they seem overwhelmed, help them go out there for a little walk, or just find a quiet place to calm down.

5. Brainstorm the Solutions

You can now start brainstorming together after they have cooled off a little bit. For instance, put them in a state of unrest because they cannot play with something; maybe you can help them offer an alternative activity to do instead.

Importance of Tantrum Management

You will learn how to manage tantrums. The reason is that tantrum management will make you and all the people around you understand emotion better. Here are a few reasons why it matters:

Develops Emotional Intelligence: Managing tantrums helps you understand and express your feelings. This is the key to healthy relations.

Promotes Communication: Talking about his feelings enhances communication skills, as it would be valuable when one handles friendships.

Encourages Empathy: You develop the concept of empathy for people by understanding tantrums and realizing when somebody is having trouble.

Helps in Developing ProblemSolving Skills: Scenes, wherein one has to deal with tantrums, help in stimulating the thinking process regarding a problem and its solution.

Fun Activities to Control Emotions

Here are some entertaining exercises that may assist you in controlling your emotions better and also managing tantrums effectively

Feeling Charades: Plan a game of charades wherein you can depict different emotions and ask others to guess what emotion has been depicted. In doing so, the perception and expression of emotion also become easy.

Make a Feelings Jar: Put lots of different colored beads into a jar. The color of each bead represents an emotion. When you have felt that emotion, draw out the bead.

Emotion Diary: Get a diary and write down how you have felt every day. You can doodle or draw pictures so others can see how you feel.

Mindfulness Activities: Practice yoga, meditation, or deep breathing. There are countless online videos and apps created specifically for children to help you get started.

Conclusion

Tantrums are something that everyone has to contend with at some point in life, so don't worry! Once you understand what a tantrum is and why people have it, you will begin to work towards developing tools to better regulate your emotions.

So the next time you are throwing a tantrum when you or someone you know needs to throw a tantrum. Don't forget those tips: stay calm, use words, and do not be afraid to ask for help. Never alone in this emotional understanding journeywith the two of us, navigating the ups and downs is easy!

MCQ

1) How should you respond to temper tantrums and meltdowns?

A. By raising your voice

B. By ignoring the child completely

C. By responding calmly, validating feelings, offering physical comfort, and giving calming options

D. By punishing the child immediately

Correct Answer: C. By responding calmly, validating feelings, offering physical comfort, and giving calming options

2) How do you get out of the tantrum loop?

A. By getting angry at the child

B. By teaching the child about triggers, creating predictable patterns, and helping them manage their emotions

C. By avoiding the child’s emotions

D. By letting the child figure it out alone

Correct Answer: B. By teaching the child about triggers, creating predictable patterns, and helping them manage their emotions

3) When do tantrums usually end?

A. They never end

B. Usually by age 4 or 5, but sometimes they continue into the early teen years

C. By age 2

D. Only if the child is disciplined

Correct Answer: B. Usually by age 4 or 5, but sometimes they continue into the early teen years

4) Is it okay to ignore tantrums?

A. Yes, only if it’s attentionseeking behavior, ensuring the child feels safe and not abandoned

B. Yes, every time

C. No, never

D. Only if it’s a school tantrum

Correct Answer: A. Yes, only if it’s attentionseeking behavior, ensuring the child feels safe and not abandoned

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